Monday, August 13, 2007


Over the weekend, we took Sam to the airport after a quick ten day visit. We also bought Ali a suitcase, so she can start packing for her semester in Budapest. For a few days there, we had noise and inside jokes and rollicking battles over who drove which car. It was a flashback - it was a richly detailed encore presentation of a few years ago. A few times, I simply fell silent, not wanting to break the spell.

It was a fine visit, but it was only a visit. Somehow, in the signing of New York City leases and part-time jobs, the balance shifted. Not long ago, he lived here, but went to school in New York. Now he lives in New York, but came back for vacation. His "stuff" is mostly in New York - the closet full of Star Wars items is only nostalgia.

Ali, on the other hand, has lived here this summer. We've had the luxury of time, so that we could spend it in bickering over plugged in hair straighteners and who does the dishes. But it's about to end, and we'll be driving her to the airport, too, for a flight to a country I've never seen, full of people speaking a language I've never heard. Chances are strong that her balance will shift before she returns home, or over the next summer. Next time, or the time after that, she will visit us instead of live with us.

I'm proud of them and wouldn't have it any other way. If the choice is whether to have them visit us or move back home because they couldn't find their places in the world, I'll gladly host their visits.

Sometimes, though, I wish the calendar would roll a little slower.



Blogger Stephen Bough said...

You have 2 great kids, both of whom are out of jail, getting jobs and who love thier parents enough to return for a 25th Wedding Party. You are fine person. At the end of this journey, they won't speak of your blogging ability. They will talk about your ability to make beer, though. Congrats a great life!

8/13/2007 8:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous Me said...

Dan -

It sounds like we are in about the same place in our lives; our kids are moving out, and making lives of their own. As much as we disagree on some things, this is what matters: family, love, & life.

Congrats, and well done, though the job is not at all over. There will be much more advice to give, questions to answer, and love to share. Thank God.

8/13/2007 9:41 AM  
Blogger thepaintman said...

here, here

8/14/2007 1:22 AM  
Anonymous travelingal said...

Some day Sam will want that closet full of "star wars stuff". As a matter of fact, he might want it now considering the prices those old action figures are bringing on Ebay.

Take a look at Ben Kenobi.

8/14/2007 7:39 PM  
Blogger mamagotcha said...

The Star Wars cash-in hope was dashed a few summers ago after Obi Wan had a... disturbing... run-in with the mower.

Two of my four moved out this summer. I still have plenty of chaos in my life with the remaining two, but there's still a few bittersweet moments. Thank goodness for family phone plans... they all talk to each other on our group minutes, and it's so good to hear them sharing their lives. If nothing else, I'm so glad they are all such good friends and confidants (took years for my sister and I to become close, and I haven't heard from my brother since sometime in the 90s).

Sounds like you did a good job, Dad!

8/26/2007 6:42 PM  

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